The Above Reproach Rules

No, this doesn't have to do with any math, science, or language rule.

These rules are now a part of my(Catherine's) life, or, at least, I try to keep them to the best of my ability. But sometimes it gets hard when I'm excited and forget, or just aren't thinking about them and forget. So here are some rules, and they are.....


The Above Reproach Rules! :)

In all, there are probably more above reproach rules in the world, but I'm going to talk about two of them. But before I start, I want to give you the definition of the word "reproach".

According to dictionary.com, "reproach" is "to find fault with (a person, group, etc.); blame".

Now I don't know about you, but I don't want to be found fault with or blamed. So staying above reproach sounds like a good thing.

I will do the second Above Reproach Rule in this next post, but, without further to do, here is the first Above Reproach Rule:

1. The Rule of Three

This is the rule that is simple to understand and keeps you above reproach (imagine that! ;). But this rule, when not used to it, can see rather "overly cautious" or "not needed". What do you do in this Above Reproach Rule? It's simple; you always have a third person with you and a guy, so you and a guy are never alone together.

So you need to always be with a third person when there are guys and girls in a group. No sneaking off with some boy or being in a room alone with him. When there are guys and girls in a group (say, a school event), you always want to have a third person there with you and him.

This might be confusing, so do you gals mind if I, in my examples, give the people in examples names? May I use the name "Bob" for a boy and "Beth" for a girl name?
Thanks! :)

Here's an example:
Bob and Beth are both at a school event. Beth knows about the Rule of Three, and she always has her friend Britney stay with her so she isn't ever alone with Bob or any other boy. This way, no one can talk about her and Bob or her and another boy. The evening is fun and both Bob and Beth can enjoy themselves without having to worry about anyone mistakenly believing that they consider anyone at the party more than their friend because Britney (and a couple of other friends) is (are) always with them. And the other good thing was they could be around each other, and other members of the other gender, without being awkward because they are alone together.


Now let's pretend that Beth doesn't follow the Rule of Three......


Bob and Beth are both at a school event. Beth doesn't follow the Rule of Three, so she goes into different rooms alone with Bob. Britney, her friend, starts circulating rumors about the two "love birds", but Beth and Bob aren't even friends. The people at the event are whispering and giggling about the two of them, and Bob goes home thoroughly confused while Beth is in tears because of the "terrible mistake".


I understand that this is more of an "extreme" situation, but the point is the same.
This rule- the Rule of Three- is logical; think about it. The more you are with a boy alone, the more people will talk (both boys and girls). The less you are with a boy alone, the less people will talk. In fact, it probably won't even cross their mind.

So, to stay out of the gossip and mean glares, hurting words, etc. I would strongly recommend this Rule of Three.

Here's another good thing about the Rule of Three; it works even when you are married.
No, let me rephrase that; it is the most important when you are married.

Think about it for a second (or maybe a minute ;). If one of your parents saw their spouse in a room alone with another person of the opposite gender, would they be fine with that?
Here's another example:
Let's say that someone found the President sitting and talking in a room alone with some woman. We'd all know about it. Media would make it some dramatic event, the First Lady would be furious either at her husband or the media, and the President would then have a "bad face" just because he was talking to some lady! That all could have been avoided with one rule; The Rule of Three.

Now, I understand that sometimes it can't be helped, but to the best of your ability, obey the Rule of Three!

So if you don't remember anything else, remember this quick little tip to keep this rule in your head: stay in groups of three when in mixed company!

Blessings,

Princess Catherine ~*~